I’m literally laughing as I read this. I am 51 and in the best shape of my life. My body is as toned as J-Lo’s, as I regularly dance, run and do Pilates.
I hope I am not alone the rest of my life. I really crave the connection and affection I have been without for too many years now. David…..I have been posting here the last few years off and on. The problem is that every time I think I am getting close to what I want, the man spazzes out. I am getting so tired of trying, and so tired of being hurt.
Debbie relations between men and women have reached an all time low with neither trusting the other this leads to a lack of interaction and commitment ..no involvement equals no hurt. Its so bad that young men have a growing movement MGTOW ” men going their own way” basicly men will endeavour to sleep with women but thats it. Singles in some countries now outnumber couples.
I think it is the most precious gift you can give another person. It’s not a casual thing to me, and I couldn’t go from guy to guy giving my most private self out like it’s candy. That part of me is saved for someone who truly deserves it, someone who’s shown me that they want what I do, a meaningful and exclusive relationship. It may well be that friendship first is a good rule, not having expectations for effort and not being used for validation allows you to set your value.
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Young women tend to be much slimmer, sex with them is on a totally different level. Plus they like or at least are not afraid of showing their bodies. After that comes personality, but this is another subject.
Even acting as just a supportive friend has gotten me rejected. Men claim to want the real deal but then ignore it when it is made easier for them to achieve it. And I do make it easy for them by being open and honest with no games. I am trying very hard to understand men and give them the respect they want, but it is a very difficult situation, especially when they can’t afford me the same courtesy. I assure you, there are still some good women out there, me being one of them. I am not materialistic but like nice things when I can afford them, but I am not out there specifically looking for a rich guy.
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You can try your might to do the right things in life, with integrity and commitment, and still wind up out on your arse. Believe me, I was devastated after giving so many years of my life to someone I deeply loved, and the scars still cut me today. But I know I have to keep moving forward. A lady like you who does not look a man’s money unfortunately is very very rare. EyesWideOpen……….You did the right thing by cultivating male friendships.
I will pass on the older guy as he really, really needs to start looking at women his own age. There is nothing worse than a 50s, 60s, and 70s yo male chasing a woman in her 30s. No daddy issues on this end, guys from 30 to 45 only. As much as I still enjoy sex at 50, for me sex is a special act, sacred even, shared between two people who really care about each other.
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Midlife single women on the need to know the websites will see a recent survey of 2023. Because each other’s profiles of users. At 53, two handsome sons, both graduating college soon enough which I raised alone for the past 5 years as their mother slowly saying goodbye in a nursing home with early onset dementia. It started when she was early 40’s – thought it was depression or behavior based. I don’t know what to do so I bought a motorcycle and started hiking constantly. I think women are attracted to me but I am introverted.
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With that said, I’d be happy with an exclusive relationship with a man where we make each other a priority. A relationship where we don’t take each other for granted and can just enjoy the stability of a caring, affectionate partnership. I don’t understand these women’s actions because I’ve always been respectful of people, especially the men I’ve been with. Sure I’ve had my teeth kicked in after putting my trust in a man, several times in fact, but I have fought my urge to consider all men to be jerks. Not all of my experiences with men have been bad, so I hold on to the hope that I can find something good again with someone, even though the odds are not great.
Truthfully, the men in their twenties aren’t even competition. Age, wisdom, experience, class, a few grey hairs, and a well-tailored suit garner me all the attention I want. I haven’t fallen in love just yet, but a simple prenup will weed out the gold diggers if I do.
I could see myself dating him but the circumstances weren’t right. Now and then someone like that may strike your fancy but generally not having a great difference in age is probably a good idea. Read all of the posts and one thing is clear im not alone,which is reassuring..Male mid fifties 5′ 6″ reasonably fit @ 158lbs & 20% body fat..
I don’t think that makes us too old to find love again, a love that can carry us into old age. Percentage-wise I think there are a lot more risk taking men than women. You may get lucky to find some danger seekers out there, but don’t count on it. Maybe those activities you mentioned will be yours exclusively, but there are many other things you and your partner can do that you’ll both enjoy doing together. Unfortunately I have not had luck finding a good man my age.
Unlike a younger man who is still trying to work out who he is and what he should be doing with his life, you’ve likely past those stages and have become your true self as a man. Lots of mature men and women don’t know the rules of dating in their age group. They don’t know when it’s the right time for a first kiss and when it’s ok to start getting more serious. Just because a woman desires financially secure men, at an age where she knows the reality of life changes, does not mean she’s a gold digger.
